Asking for Help

Do you ask for help when you need it?

If you do not, what prevents you or holds you back?

Do you consider asking for help a weakness or strength?

Think of a past situation or struggle where you needed help but refused to ask because you did not want to appear weak or appear as if you could not handle it on your own.

This quote by Les Brown is so powerful because many people may see asking for help as a sign of weakness. They feel that they should be able to handle anything that comes their way. Therefore, they refuse to ask for help when they could really use that help or support. What happens? Feelings of being stuck, frustration, and overwhelm start to set in.

I often say it takes a strong person to ask for help; However, I have had my struggles with asking for help in the past and I am still working on getting better at it.

Are you still struggling with asking for help?

For the longest time, I believed that I needed to solve all of life’s challenges on my own. Whether it was in a relationship, a family situation, or a work-related issue, I thought I could single-handedly work through any issue I had and if I did not then I would see myself as less of a man.

The problem with that whole theory though is that it was not true. It is a made up story in my head and because of that, it kept me stuck for many years. Maybe it was a pride thing or the fact that I was scared but did not want to show it. Whatever it was, avoiding help from others crippled me from moving forward beyond that point of “stuckness.” It left me stagnant.

The interesting thing about stagnancy though is that we tend to get used to it. No matter how bad it might be, we grow accustom to it and, therefore, years start passing us by and we come to this conclusion that this is how it was supposed to be.

If you are feeling trapped in some sort of situation now, imagine how it would feel to be able to move out of that rut. Imagine how quickly your life can actually change if you just asked someone to lend a helping hand.

You might be thinking, “No one wants to help me. Why would they?” Well I want to challenge that with the simple question, “Do you know for certain that this is true?”

I think you would be surprised how many people would provide support to those in need, lend a listening ear, and offer appropriate guidance.

To be honest, I still struggle with asking for help from time to time, as I think most people do. However, I realize the power and importance of it in order to grow and I strive at getting better at it every day.

I ask that you do the same as well.

If you are feeling stuck in your life, reach out to someone. Reach out to me. If you know someone who could use some assistance, see if there is a way you can help.

We are all in this together.

Now it’s your turn.

How does this quote inspire you?

Tell me about an experience where you avoided asking for help because you did not want to appear weak. What happened? Were you able to get the support you needed? If so, what have you learned from the experience?

Contact me or share your thoughts below in the Comments section.

Let’s get the discussion going.

Remember, you are not alone on this journey. Together we can become stronger individuals.