What is the conversation you have with yourself on a daily basis?
Are you your best friend or your worst enemy?
If you had to spend time alone, what would your experience be like?
Take a minute, answer those questions, and determine whether you are cool with the conversations going on in your head or if that little voice drives you insane. If you go crazy being alone with your thoughts, even if it is just for a little while, what is going on within you?
This quote by Diane Von Furstenberg is an important one to grasp because no matter where you go, there you are. You can’t run away from yourself. Even when you have those moments where you try to escape your internal dialog, keeping yourself occupied by external distractions, your thoughts are always with you.
We all have an inner voice within us. It’s constantly questioning, criticizing, contemplating, analyzing, assuming. Those gears in our minds are always moving, either empowering or disempowering us.
Which is it for you? What has been your experience up until now?
For the longest time I considered my inner voice to be similar to the character George on Seinfeld, displaying personality traits of being bitter, neurotic, selfish, pessimistic, and spiteful. Yeah, it did make for some interesting internal conversations at times but none that were very empowering. It was actually quite the opposite. When you are stuck in that type of mindset, how can you enjoy life? If you are always coming from a disempowered state of mind, you will never be happy because you won’t allow yourself to be.
That’s why it’s so important to be comfortable in the company of ourselves. There isn’t any one thing or person that can bring you happiness. Maybe you can achieve a temporary happiness but it is not sustainable if you can’t be happy within yourself.
When your inner voice starts coming at you like a bully on a playground, challenge it. Look within to figure out and understand what is causing you to think this way. The only person that can change your internal dialog is you. Call bullshit on any thought that is leading you to an undesirable emotional state.
If being within the confines of your own thoughts make you uncomfortable then it’s time to make that shift now.
Keep a daily log of some of the internal dialog that you witness within your mind throughout each day. At the end of the week, reflect back on that log and challenge whether any or all of those disempowering thoughts are actually true or just assumptions you created yourself.
Begin to develop your awareness around what you are thinking and focusing on and create the narrative you want in order to be at peace with yourself.
Now it’s your turn.
How does this quote inspire you?
Tell me about an experience where the thought of spending time alone with your thoughts freaked you out. What was it specifically that made you feel this way? Was your inner voice acting as your own worst enemy? If so, have you been able to change that internal dialog to a more empowering, reassuring voice?
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Remember, you are not alone on this journey. Together we can become stronger individuals.
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