Are you comfortable being alone?
Do you embrace your alone time or do you avoid it at all costs?
Are you constantly surrounding yourself with distractions to escape being by yourself?
Take some time now and answer those questions honestly. Reflect on your responses because it is so important to become aware and understand how you handle those times when you are alone with yourself.
This quote by Bell Hooks shares a core principle in establishing not only a better relationship with yourself but also with the people in your life. When you can enjoy your own solitude, you won’t be trying to surround yourself with people out of need but rather out of want.
That is so empowering because when you are happy being alone, you are more selective with whom you choose to spend your time. You will want to be around people that support and uplift you. You won’t have the need or desire to hold on to toxic people or unhealthy relationships.
However, there are people who have a hard time even being alone for a few minutes. They start going stir crazy. They don’t know what to do with themselves.
Do you know anyone like that? Have you experienced that for yourself?
If you are currently having trouble finding the joy in being alone within the presence of your own company, start by looking within.
What is it truly about? What is the root cause? When you are alone, are your thoughts disempowering you versus empowering you? Do you lack interests, hobbies, and passions that make you feel alive? Do you lack a purpose to pursue in your life? Is there a fear that you are missing out by not being with others?
All of these factors play a role in how we view ourselves and how we interact with others. Yes, we all want to feel connected to others. It’s part of being human. However, being able to have a healthy relationship with yourself enables you to have healthier relationships with the people in your life.
Think about it. A fulfilling relationship is one of giving as opposed to trying to get something. How can you fully give to someone in a relationship when you constantly have this need to fill something you feel is missing within yourself?
When you can enjoy and appreciate the time you spend with yourself, you can enter relationships with others in a more healthy, supportive, and loving way.
Now it’s your turn.
How does this quote inspire you?
Tell me about an experience where your discomfort of being alone led you to seek out relationships that were either unhealthy or destructive. If that was true for you, have you been able to embrace your alone time and establish a better relationship with yourself and others?
Or is that discomfort still holding you back from embracing your self-worth?
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Remember, you are not alone on this journey. Together we can become stronger individuals.
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