Have you ever sacrificed who you are in order to please another?

Were you ever fearful of losing someone that you lost yourself in the process?

Have you ever molded yourself to someone else’s wants and needs while pushing your own aside?

Take a minute now and reflect back on your past relationships. Determine if in any of those relationships you were more concerned about losing your partner that you changed who you are in the process to please the other person.

This quote by Miya Yamanouchi is so powerful because sometimes in relationships people choose to forget about themselves in order to accommodate to the other person. They give up all of the things that are important to them because they believe that this will better serve the relationship.

However, in actuality, it does the opposite. Relationships should enhance your life, not consume it. When you give up yourself, who you are, your passions, interests, and sometimes your values, you focus solely on the other person. In doing so, you begin to tie your happiness to the other person. That is neither healthy for you or your partner.

And, if that relationship were to end, what would happen? I know for me, when I allowed this to happen, I would feel lost and empty.

Does that resonate with you? Can you recall ever having similar feelings after the end of a relationship?

If someone no longer chooses to stay in a relationship with you, no amount of you wanting them to stay will prevent that from happening. So why fear it?

Instead, appreciate the relationship, cherish the person you are with, and most of all continue to stay grounded within yourself. Make sure to nourish both your partner and yourself.

If we can’t continue to be who we are prior to entering that relationship then maybe it’s not the right   one to pursue.

Embrace compromise as opposed to sacrifice. Yes, allowing someone in to your life adds a completely new dynamic. However, this should never cause you to feel the need to change for fear of losing them.

So if you are experiencing this right now, what is one thing you can do to help nourish yourself and fill your cup while giving your partner the time and space they need as well? Be the best version you can be for others by taking the time to take care of yourself.

Now it’s your turn.

How does this quote inspire you?

Tell me about an experience where you sacrificed who you are in an attempt to please someone else. What happened and how did it make you feel? Did it help grow and nourish the relationship? If not, what was the outcome?

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