Are you focused on failures or embracing new opportunities?
Do you tend to hold on to the past or look forward to the future?
Do you remain stagnant or continue to move forward?
Take a few minutes to think about how many new opportunities you might have avoided seeing because you focused solely on the ones that did not end work.
The minute I saw this quote by Alexander Graham Bell I knew it would be my next blog post. How often do we remain stuck in a previous situation, far after it has ended, before we come to our senses and realize it’s not the end, but a new beginning?
This is applicable to all aspects of our lives, whether it is physical, financial, mental, or emotional.
However, I see this most commonly associated among people experiencing the end of a long-term relationship, including myself.
We stay focused on that closed door (a past relationship) and we over-analyze, evaluate, wonder, and question everything that went wrong, what we could have done differently, and what we can do now to fix it and get back inside.
As we continue trying to pick a lock to a door that no longer has a key, there is a hallway of wide-open doorways but we don’t see them. We can’t acknowledge them because our fear of failure and rejection keeps us scratching desperately to get back in to what once was.
To make matters more difficult, there are many online marketers taking advantage of this. They offer programs and courses like “How to get your ex back” or “Get your ex back in 30 days.”
Now, I’m not here to bash on a specific business model. You gotta do what you gotta do.
In addition, I’m sure there are plenty of relationships worth fighting for.
I just want to point out that it takes two people to make a relationship work and if the person on the other side of that door doesn’t want to re-open it, do you really want to axe your way back in?
This is an opportunity for self-growth, learning, and the chance to look around to see what other pathways have now opened up. Shake that tunnel vision by slowly stepping back and away from that closed door to expand your periphery.
It is not the end but simply a new beginning. It will lead you to becoming a stronger person in the process. I wouldn’t be sharing this with you now if I still kept focusing on trying to claw my way back in to my closed doors.
Become curious.
Be inspired, motivated, and open to new opportunities.
Now it’s your turn.
How does this quote inspire you?
Tell me about an experience where you focused on the end of something so deeply you didn’t recognize all of the new opportunities around you?
How long did it take you before you were able to step back and away from that door?
Are you still staring at that closed door? If so, what is keeping stuck there?
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Let’s get the discussion going.
Remember, you are not alone on this journey. Together we can become stronger individuals.
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