Are you finding that you are constantly trying to explain yourself to others?
If so, what are you trying to achieve by doing that?
Is it helping the relationship grow or just causing more frustration for both you and the other person?
Take a minute now and look to see how often you’ve been in situations where you were trying to explain yourself to others and for what purpose. Were you looking for validation or perhaps permission from that other person? What was it for specifically?
This quote by Paulo Coelho offers a great reminder how we, sometimes, feel this need to have to explain ourselves, the things we do, or how we live our lives.
But think about how many times you tried to do so and yet the other person couldn’t understand because it wasn’t aligning to their map of reality. It didn’t match up to what they see and believe.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s perception of reality is different. Everyone has his or her own selective filters based on their life experience. No matter how much explaining you try to do, they will typically only be able to hear information based on what they know.
Now this is not to say that every conversation you have is simply wasted breath. No, not at all. However, how often do people truly communicate in a way to understand fully the other person’s point of view?
The key aspect that we should focus on is why you feel like you have to explain yourself in everything you do. Who are those people that you feel the need to do this? Let’s figure out what that’s about and get to the root cause of that.
Take some time now to explore that and look within. See what comes up for you.
Because you should not feel obligated to have to explain yourself to anyone unless it helps nourish and grow that relationship in a positive way. Realize the importance of living your life based on how you want and not based on how others want you to.
If you find yourself having to explain or justify everything you do which constantly leads to more frustration, wasted time, and drained energy… stop! To continue to do so is going to slow you down or stop you completely from taking authentic, inspired action that is in alignment with you and how you want to be.
There is only one person that knows what is best for you and that’s you.
Now it’s your turn.
How does this quote inspire you?
Tell me about an experience where you were trying to explain yourself to someone and that person just didn’t get it. Whether it was certain thoughts you had or actions you took but they were unable to hear what you were saying, they only heard what they chose to hear.
How was that for both you and the other person? You did you walk away feeling energized or frustrated and drained?
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